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If you are trying to stop smoking, it is good to take the time to ask yourself why you want to quit. And I know that to you, it may seem obvious, but you would be surprised to discover that the why can control your chances of success.

There is a kind of statement beginning with ¨When I¨. Here are a few examples.

• When I make more money, I will no longer worry.
• When I get a new job, I will be free.
• When I stop smoking, my partner will stop nagging me.
• When I give up smoking, my husband will buy me that car he is promising.
• When I go on holiday, I will be able to relax.
• When I stop smoking, my boyfriend will be kind to me and will propose.
• When I quit smoking, my wife, who earns more than me, will respect me.
• When I lose weight, I will find someone who loves me.
• When I give up smoking, I will not be so anxious about the possibility of a heart attack or stroke.
• When I give up smoking, I will no longer worry about getting lung cancer and leaving my children orphaned.

So basically, we tell ourselves that once we have that thing that we need, then we will be happy. However, there are many happy people the world over who are very poor, never go on holiday, or never get a new job. That is because happiness is a state of being, rather than a state dependent on a particular achievement.

There are two ways of giving up smoking. One way involves at least some help to resolve the underlying emotional reasons, and another way does not. Do not get me wrong here; I am not suggesting that you have to spend money or see someone in order to stop smoking, there is also self-help. So let me explain more about the ¨When I¨ driver for stopping smoking. When we reach our goal of giving up smoking by going cold turkey, medication, or habit modification, we are happy for a while, but then there is something else we find ourselves needing. You may know of people who stopped smoking but gained weight overeating, or who became so irritable, they went back to smoking, or who one day out of the blue, picked up a cigarette and started all over again. But when they first stopped, they were happy. They had this great few months of feeling great. What happened? The reason is that we have not solved the root cause behind the need to stop smoking. So we think that stopping smoking will make us happy, but after the Dampfen subsides, we are on the lookout for something again.

Time and time again, I have had clients come to me for stopping smoking just because their partner wanted it. And I usually weed them out, but some do slip through. My suspicion is that they genuinely tell themselves that they want to give up because of their own reasons, and for a while make themselves believe it. But this has a great deal of inherent problems. For someone who is a non-smoker to fall in love with a smoker and then insist that they stop, there is a problem. The non-smoker in that relationship for some reason fell in love with someone they find repugnant. It is good to ask why, what has gone wrong in the non-smoking partner´s life to cause them to seek out relationships with people they are incompatible with? And the smoker in that relationship is making a big lifestyle change only in order to keep the relationship. It is good to ask what has gone so wrong in the smoker´s life that they allow themselves to be controlled so strongly by their partner? There is a problem in the relationship dynamic here, and time after time, I find that either the smoker is not ready to stop as yet, or that the couple break up. It is not always so clear-cut, and there are many respectful non-smokers that ask their partners to stop; for example, if they are planning to have children soon.

Most people come to me to stop smoking because they are aware that if they continue, they will have heart attacks, strokes, and may get cancer of the lung, throat, or some other painful way of an early demise. And that is the norm. However, for some people, they are anxious that they may die of a smoking-related illness, and think to themselves that when they stop smoking, they will be safe from the diseases that terrify them. Can you see the difference here? One smoker is simply aware of the dangers of continuing smoking and is making a decision to change. Another smoker is terrified and anxious about the consequences of continuing smoking, and is driven not by a desire to be healthy but the need to avoid the terror situation of serious disease and death. Chances are that the latter smoker has some anxiety, whether diagnosed or not. What this person needs is to address the anxiety or nervousness. Simply stopping smoking will not last, because as the person´s anxiety returns after the initial no-smoking euphoria, the easiest and quickest way that person knows how to cope is to have a cigarette. And then the whole thing starts all over again.

Maybe you can ask yourself, what is the feeling you are trying to achieve by stopping smoking? Do you feel that you will be lovable or safe when you have lost the weight? In that case, are you not actually at some level thinking that you are unlovable or unsafe as you are? The fact is that when you love yourself and forgive yourself and anyone else involved in whatever hurts you have suffered, you will have resolved the underlying reasons to smoking, and you will no longer need to medicate yourself with cigarettes or anything else instead. EFT, short for Emotional Freedom Techniques, is a great way to work on any emotional block in your path. Or if EFT is not for you, you can use EMDR, NLP, or whatever works for you.

So, ask yourself, what do you want to achieve by stopping smoking? If it is at least partly that you want to be loved or safe, this is exactly what you can work on to ensure that you are quitting for the right reasons. Because when you do, the results can last. And that is wonderful in every way.

In order to quit smoking, you need to start with a desire to quit. It is pointless to try the various techniques available if you have no serious intention of quitting. Not every smoker wants to quit. Whilst there are some who tried but failed, there are also those who have no intention to quit. To the latter group, we can just wish you all ‘Happy Smoking and Please Take Care’.

Often we hear smokers saying they intend to quit smoking, but the next time you see them, you still see cigarettes dangling from their mouth.

If we want to quit smoking successfully, it is not enough to merely state, “I wan to quit smoking.” You need a good reason. And it must be a sound reason to make you committed, determined and motivated to accomplish the task. With a strong and meaningful reason, your chances for success are greatly enhanced.

Let’s look at some common reasons given by those who wish to quit smoking:

Reason 1: Smoking Is a Very Bad Habit

This appears to be like an acceptable reason but in reality, it is very difficult for us to psyche ourselves into action as we all know that we are creatures of habits. There are a lot of our other bad habits that we do not complain about. So why make a fuss over e-Zigarette

If one has to address this particular bad habit, then what about the many others like picking your nose while waiting for the traffic lights to turn green, or not washing your hands after going to the toilet and going to bed without washing your feet?

Personally, I suggest you better look for some better reasons to quit smoking.

Reason 2: Smoking Is Bad For Health

This is another reason that is tailored for failure. Of course, everybody, both smokers and no-smokers alike know that cigarettes are bad for health. But that doesn’t make everybody scramble to kick this unhealthy habit. Why? That’s because the damage does not show up immediately.

Reason 3: I Just Had a Massive Heart Attack the Other Day

In this care, you better quit. You must be a first class moron or the leading village idiot if you don’t.

For smokers, ‘Seeing believes’. Such a life-threatening situation would surely convince them that smoking is extremely bad for the health.

Reason 4: Smokers Are Not Welcome By Others

What happened if your boss or your mother-in-law could not tolerate your smoking habit anymore? Is that a strong enough reason to quit? Or what if your office is located in a no-smoking building? Is the inconvenience of having to go down for a smoke a motivating factor for you to quit?

Or the girl you are getting all excited about dislike people who smoke? For lucky you, it is she and no one else. Would you, therefore, quit smoking because of her?

The world has changed. No-smokers are now standing up and making a public statement about their displeasure towards smoking. This demand has led to rulings like no-smoking restrictions at shopping complexes and airports, no-smoking section at restaurants, no-smoking rules during flights, no-smoking rooms in hotels and so on.

The situations indicated above do provide a strong reason for quitting, even though the decision to do so is due to external pressures rather than one’s own free will. The decision to do so is due to external pressures rather than one’s own free will. In a way, there is a certain level of resentment and reluctance on the part of the smoker to quit. Obviously this will create an additional burden in one’s effort to quit smoking.

Once you get a strong reason to quit smoking, you may try the stop smoking herbs quit smoking methods. They are specially formulated to help you to deal with your withdrawal symptoms.

Mmmm… smoked ribs – one of the great American traditions that seem to stand the test of time. It used to be if you wanted great smoked ribs you had to go out and that special place that cooks them just right. Now with all of the barbecue smokers on the market it is possible to get that same down home rib experience e-Zigarette.

BBQ smokers come in many varieties. There is the traditional charcoal and wood smokers that use charcoal or hickory as the main heat and smoke source. There are also water vapor smokers that combine either charcoal or propane as the heat source with container of water to add moisture to the ribs. Electric smokers have come on to the market lately and are super convenient for the everyday outdoor cooker.

Once you have decided on a good barbecue smoker, you want to go out and find yourself a nice rack of ribs. They can be either beef or pork ribs. Try and get a rack that has not been frozen and has a pink color to it. Buying the pre-trimmed ribs is a lot easier. Ask the butcher if he/she can do this for you if they are not trimmed.

When you get the ribs home, take the membrane off of the back of ribs the night before you will smoke them. This will make the ribs tenderer. You can use a knife to start the process and pull the rest off with your thumb and forefinger in combination with the knife to ensure all of the membrane gets separated.

To prepare the ribs for smoking, you’ll want to apply thin layer of either mustard or olive oil as a base coat for the dry rub. This coating will help the dry rub stick to the ribs better. After you coat the ribs, apply a good dry rub that you can either purchase or create from scratch. There are many good recipes online. After you have applied the dry rub store the ribs in the refrigerator overnight.

When you get ready to smoke the ribs, pull the ribs out of the refrigerator and let them get to room temperature. Pre heat your smoker to about 250 degrees. This is the ideal temperature to smoke ribs at. It’s a good idea to use a thermometer and place it where the ribs will go to get an accurate reading.

If you don’t have a water vapor type of barbecue smoker, you can use a mop to apply the moisture. You’ll want to use a mixture of forty percent cooking oil and sixty percent apple cider vinegar in a spray bottle. Let the ribs smoke for about 5 hours at 250 degrees applying the mop about every 45 minutes or so. Wrap the ribs in tin foil and apply a mop for the last 30 minutes. Make sure the damper is open to release the smoke otherwise the ribs will be bitter.

If you want barbecue sauce, you should apply it after the ribs are done. If you like your ribs dry then just pull them out the smoker and serve as is. That’s all there is to it! Happy smoking!